So I Said Pod With Dylan Sellers

Pretty Privilege

December 08, 2021 Dylan L. Sellers Season 1 Episode 26
So I Said Pod With Dylan Sellers
Pretty Privilege
Show Notes Transcript

The one where Dylan figures out he has the pretty privilege

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So I said, my wife said, I got pretty privileged. And I'm here for you. I know your wife telling you that you pretty is sort of like your mom telling you that you're pretty, but I don't care. You're listening to my podcast. So you're going to indulge my pretty privilege. So let me tell you how this happened. Right? I was looking in the mirror one day, and I'm like, huh, how attractive? I'm like, not an ugly dude. I may not be like, I'm not interested, Alba. But like, I'm not far you don't I'm saying like, if there's a spectrum. And he's a 10. I'm, I'm definitely somewhere solid. Eight. Yeah. I said, Hey, you don't I'm saying like, if you don't agree, that's fine. That's none of my business. But I'm telling you, I think I'm attractive. Here's where I figured out that I might have pretty privileged though, right? So I'm on a call for work. And it's with a different company. And this young lady hops on the hops into the call. And her eyes light up, right. And it wasn't one of those. Oh, my God, he's black. It was one of those. Oh, maybe she wasn't expecting me to be attractive. Because she smiled. And then the conversation went really well after that. It's like when she like when her eyes lit up. And she smiled. I was like, Wait a minute. I hadn't said anything yet. I haven't said anything. What can she possibly be smiling about? Oh, I'm attractive. And that's what I thought. And so like, you know, we had this conversation, the conversation went, Well, you know, partnerships blinds, a skip all of that grass. It was great, right? And so I'm sitting with my wife on the couch. We're watching Boy Meets World. And I say hey, but am I pretty? And she said, What? You know, Am I attractive? Yeah, absolutely. You're attractive? Do I have pretty privileged? And she says, Dylan. What are you talking about? We're watching the show, like, Stop bothering me. That's what she said. But I didn't stop bothering her. Because that's not the nature of our relationship. I need to know if I have pretty privileged. And so I kept going. And she says, Well, Dylan, I guess Oh, like you're attractive. I mean, I'm pretty sure people don't mind interacting with you. Because you're not hard to look at. That's all I needed. And I've been flexing ever since. Usually what I got on, if you listen to the podcast, you don't see what I got. But I bought a beanie. And that's, you know, cuz I think that hipsters who think they attractive by beanies, and I bought one, and I have it on. Yeah, I mean, I'm layering. It's the fall is Big Boy season, I am in my bag. This was the perfect time to find out that you got pretty privileged, you know, when you when it's your time of the year, and big guys, our time of the year is fall, fall in winter, we look real attractive during that time of year. You don't I mean, we look, we look warm, and cozy. And that's what I feel. You know what I mean? I'm warm and cozy and like, why wouldn't Sharmayne want to snuggle up next to me? It's great. So I think what I'm going to do is add pretty privileged to my list of privileges. Oh, yeah. I'm aware that I got me a list of privileges. You want me run them down for you? Don't mind if I do. I'm a man. Straight check. I am sort of educated. And I communicate my thoughts pretty clearly. I speak well, as most white women would say after I've said something that they agree with, oh, you speak so? Well. I was I was at an event and somebody said that to a friend of mine. And we both laughed about it in the car. Frustrating laughed, but we laughed about it in the car. But these are all privileges that I possess. Things that I know that like because I'm a man, people tend to listen to me. Right? Because I speak well. They're more engaged with what I said, and I'm able to communicate my thoughts better than most. These are all privileges. You know what I mean? I'm straight. And so you know, I don't have that going on. There's there's a whole lot that is working in my favor. And I don't know, usually you're supposed to be upset about those things. And maybe, maybe, maybe if I was white, we wouldn't be celebrating privileges. And that's fine. Because, you know, there's a thing, but because I'm not white. I need to be aware of my privilege, and use it for good. But I don't know man, like pretty privileged is not what I'll try to use for good right now. I'm trying to use that to the fullest extent, and get what I need from my wife. You know what I mean? Like, she knows I'm attractive. She is agreed that I have pretty privileged so I'm gonna use that to get what I need from my wife. I don't plan to use it on anybody else. Or maybe I'm using it on other people. I don't really know how this pretty privileged thing works. I just got here, you know what I mean? I was, you know, doing my thing and pretty privileged found me and I was like, welcome home. That's all I got for this one. I'm out